I'm sure it's not a big shocker to you that Facebook is effecting relationships all over the place. But you might be surprised to learn just HOW MANY ways Facebook is getting in the way of having healthy, drama-free relationships.
Pay close attention to #9!
1) Your relatioship status. Here’s an immediate source of controversy contributing to the difficulty of early dating. Ever been here? You like a girl, she likes you. You date, you spend some time together, everything’s going well and splendid. Then, oh no, she asks. "Are we like… facebook relationship status ‘together?" The Facebook relationship status is like the class ring of the 21st century. If you want people to know you're exclusive, give in to her request. If you'd rather avoid this altogether, delete the 'relationship status' from your profile completely
2) Unfortunate old photos. If you've ever done anything embarrassing, there's a good chance one of your friends snapped a picture to document that moment for posterity. Do yourself a favor and delete anything like this from your profile before you "friend" a person you might want to date.
3) Tagging her offensively. My girlfriends and I abide by the Internet Code: never post/tag each other in a photo if that photo is even remotely unflatering. Even a photo that you think is fine might be unacceptable to her, so ask before posting.
4) Lack of online affection. Many girls eagerly await the day their newest flame will find the chance to post some witty comment to their profile. When you don’t, they think you’re either too lazy to care or trying to hide them from your internet friends. If you aren't the type of guy to do that sort of thing, just tell her it's because you find online interactions too impersonal ... and hope your excuse works.
5) Ex's invade. Both of your personal history is written all over this forum. Your best bet is to delete old relationship material before you start seeing someone new. It's better for the story to come from you personally than for your partner to have to find it on Facebook.
6) Jealousy. Are you a guy with a lot of attractive female friends? Be prepared for porential dates to assume there's more to the "just friends" story. On the one hand, be grateful that the girl you're seeing wants to be the only lady in your life, but hardcore jealousy is a relationship ruiner.
7) Becoming a fan of the wrong page. Are you super conservative, and your BF/GF is a staunch Democrat? Uhoh. What groups you join, what pages you favorite, what you virtually promote – all of this goes into the boiler of her brain when summing you up. So, be sure to be choosy about what invitations and page suggestions you accept. Ideally, you and your partner will share similar interests, but if you don't, be sure not to let those differences turn into fights.
8) Discovering each other's inboxes. A good rule of thumb: ALWAYS LOG OUT. Even if you or your partner aren't trying to snoop, sometimes we see things that aren't meant for us, and those things--when taken out of context--can cause problems.
9) Time stealer. Step away from the computer! Put the smartphone down! Your additction to the internet (or hers) will kill your relationship! If you feel you might be spending too much time on Facebook, set a time limit (literally, set a timer if you have to) and don't go over it. If you'd rather be on Facebook than with your man or woman, there's a problem.
10) A picture is worth a thousand words. Whoever finds their way into your profile pic must be--especially in a woman's mind--pretty important. So, even if your pal took a hilarious photo of you at a bar with three Budweiser beer girls, or of you and your best girl friend doing something hilarious together, avoid at all costs advertising this as a profile pic. To her, this means she’s not good enough to be your favorite. Choose wisely.
[MadeMan]





